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Epicurus and Pleasure

Epicurus (341–270 B.C.) saw discomfort and negative emotions as the cause of unhappiness and worked to avoid uncomfortable experiences and problems to achieve happiness. Today we tend to think of his Epicurean school as being all about enjoying the good. His detractors tried to claim the same thing back in ancient times by accusing him of engaging in wild debauchery. But that kind of wild hedonism was not Epicurus’s thing at all.

Epictetus and Purpose

Epictetus (50–135 A.D.) had a very different take on the happy life. He taught that happiness comes from finding your life’s purpose and pursuing that goal. This crippled former slave believed that people should accept their fate and even come to love it as if it’s the fate they would have chosen for themselves. He thought that by pursuing your purpose and accepting your destiny, you could earn happiness through sacrifice.

Hedonism vs Eudaemonia

The teaching of these two philosophers has led to divergent schools of thought on happiness. The Epicurean school is known today as Hedonism, which promotes the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain through reason. In contrast, the rival Epictetus philosophy focuses on Eudaemonia, the goal of developing one’s personal potential in the pursuit of a purpose bigger than the self.

Hedonia is the pursuit of what feels good; eudaemonia is the pursuit of doing good.

So which of these philosophies is right? Should we lock out what makes us uncomfortable and enjoy life like a hedonist? Or should we focus on living our life’s purpose and doing our best despite the hardships and trust that happiness will find us?

The Golden Mean and Happiness

Recent research has shown that the best way to be happy is to combine elements of both hedonism and eudaemonia. Blending makes sense in light of another Greek philosopher who wrote about happiness. Aristotle gave us the concept of the Golden Mean. This idea tells us that it’s best to aim for the middle and avoid the extremes. For example, take the virtue of courage, too much courage can lead to recklessness, while too little can lead to cowardice. Bravery is a proper balance between the two extremes.

Pleasure — Purpose → Vacuousness and anxiety.

Purpose — Pleasure → Martyrdom and Burnout.

Purpose + Pleasure → Happiness and satisfaction.

The best way to pursue happiness is with a balance of pleasure and purpose. The odds are that you naturally favor one approach or the other. There is nothing wrong with that, but it is a good thing to be aware of so you don’t violate the golden mean.

My Experience

In my life, I have cycled between the two. When I was younger, I was a hedonist. I did what I liked and avoided what I did not. And I was happy, but I was also a child and not going anywhere with that approach.

How You Can Use This In Your Life

The lesson here is that you need to find a balance of hedonic and eudaemonic happiness in your life. The question is, how do you do that? The steps below will help.

Recognize Yor Weak Side

It starts with recognizing your natural tendency to pursue one or the other. Take time to reflect on your approach to happiness. Do you make time to enjoy the good things in life? Or do you derive more satisfaction from working toward a goal? Neither attitude is inherently right or wrong, but overreliance on one versus the other can lead to an unbalanced life and unhappiness. (If you feel you need help deciding which camp you fall into, try this free quiz from the University of Pennsylvania here.)

Build on your weakness.

Too much pursuit of pleasure or purpose, no matter how well-intentioned, can lead to trouble. Once you recognize which way you lean, make an effort to incorporate the other side to become more balanced and resilient. We tend to double down on what comes naturally to us. It takes a deliberate effort to build up the other side, but it would be a mistake to neglect to do so.

Add Hedonia

If you are a hard-driven, goal-oriented person pursuing your purpose in life, make time to stop and smell the roses. Schedule some “me time” to do something for no reason other than it makes you feel good. Dinner out with friends, getting a massage, reading a good book, playing with your dog, whatever works for you. It does not need to be a significant event. It might be better if it’s not, as keeping it small makes it less intimidating to do. So pull out that day planner and pen (yes, pen, no erasing this) in a little time to do something just because you enjoy it.

Add Eudaemonia

If you tend toward the pleasure side of happiness, then make an effort to build a little more purpose into your life. That does not mean you need to move to Calcutta and minister to the poor. It does mean taking a look at your strengths and interests and finding a place those two things intersect with a need of others. Not sure where to start?

Conclusion

The goal is not to go from one side to the other. The goal is to find a balance of hedonism and eudaemonia in your life. The Golden Mean is the key. Find your way to the middle by incorporating both pleasure and purpose into your life. It will lead to a more satisfying experience.

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